When you’re going through a divorce, emotions are running high and tempers are fragile. With the constant barrage of comments and posts popping up on social media, it can be tempting to vent your frustrations to your friends and family through Facebook or Twitter. We’ve seen this backfire repeatedly in the short time that social media has been in existence. It’s with that in mind, that we’ve gathered these social media mistakes to avoid when you’re going through a divorce. If you’re in the Austin area and are in need of a divorce attorney, call us at the Law Office of Tobie Kuykendall.
-Saying Something Too Soon
Social media has become a great way to stay in contact with people and update them on what’s going on with your life. Many people have become so reliant on it that it can feel weird holding onto such a massive moment as a secret. However, when you exercise some discretion you can avoid hurting someone’s feelings as well as legal ramifications. This makes it a good idea to discuss a social media strategy with your ex-spouse to avoid jumping the gun. It’s better you approach this together to make a mutual decision instead of saying something too soon in the hopes of breaking the scoop.
-Bashing Your Ex
While you may see your social media as an avenue for support, you shouldn’t expect them to all want to bash your ex with you. You’re likely to have friends and family that are connected to your ex, and smearing them online (no matter how true the statements may be) will alienate them and isolate you. Approaching the whole divorce with awareness and empathy can help prevent hurting feelings or forcing people to take sides.
Anything posted on the internet stays there in some form forever. Consider how many employers have now begun to survey a potential employee’s social media presence; would you want them to see all of the dirty laundry that’s been dug up in your divorce because you shared it to your friends? If you really need to get something off your chest, consider asking a close friend out to coffee to discuss it in person so you can keep your online profile free of drama.
Your attorney’s job is to work for you through the legality of divorce, but you won’t do them any favors if you brag about some retail therapy or a wild night of the single life online. These types of posts can affect not only your settlement but also your child custody agreement. A recent study showed 81% of divorce attorneys have seen an uptick in divorce cases where social media was used as evidence. You also want to avoid making a passive aggressive post that is intended to send a message to your ex. So even if you’ve moved on, don’t post about your new date or memes talking about being better off. It’s just safer to stay offline in most cases.
It can be tempting to spy on your ex’s social media accounts to see what they’re doing or who they’re with, but it will only result in sadness or anger. If you have your ex’s password, absolutely do not use it. Accessing password protected information without permission is nebulous legal territory you don’t want to go into. With the end of a marriage, there is a space that opens up in your world. If you try to fill that space with the person you’re no longer going to be with will prevent you from moving on and finding something that really makes you happy.
-Blocking Your Ex
While you may think with what we’ve said, this is the best course of action for you to truly move on. Eventually, it may be exactly what you need, but while the divorce is in progress, it’s important to consider what this could do to your rapport with them. If there’s underlying tension or jealousy, blocking them may be the right answer, as you won’t want them to see what you’re doing or saying. However, if it was a friendly divorce or you’re committed to sharing custody of a child, keeping your ex in the loop can help avoid larger issues. A great solution when you want a break from them is to hide or mute their posts. It will retain your friendship status while giving you some much-needed space.
The world of social media is something that is constantly changing how we interact with people, and as such we can stumble into some simple mistakes that end up costing us down the line. Keeping clear of social media when you’re going through a divorce can help avoid trouble, prevent hurting anyone’s feelings, and help you steer clear of incriminating yourself. If you are looking for some more consultation regarding divorce, call our experts at the Law Office of Tobie Kuykendall today.